I could quote this back to elfwreck or somebody, but I'm sure s/he would have an answer and my mother didn't raise me to be a shuttlecock.

But even if it is purely an emotional issue, I agree with you that that doesn't make it any less important. Emotions, as I've said, drive us; if they're out of whack, everything we do suffers. Applying the courage/serenity/wisdom formula shows that this is something that need not be accepted and can be changed (or rather, for the moment, prevented from changing for the worse).

And yes, my country is retropic and hamstrung by outmoded ideas too. That's part of our charm. We're supposed to be the counterweight to California (smaller land area, so longer arm).