Puzzle Boxes

[howeird]

Following up on something caprine posted on FB, taking a very different angle.

"...women are not machines you put kindness tokens into until sex falls out."

is the operative line from a post she had linked to. And I disagree with everything in that line except the word "machines". Experience and observation has shown me that most people will reward enough kindness tokens with sex. But there is a catch or three. If there is no chemistry, there will be no physics. Too many tokens offered too soon may backfire. Offering the wrong tokens can be fatal. And the reward may not be sex, it may be some other form of appreciation.

Let me tell you a story.

I was early for rehearsals (this was many years ago) and the theater was empty, so I sat down at the piano in the wings and started plunking out The Minute Waltz. One of the women in the cast walks by, sits on the piano bench beside me and says something like "is there anything you aren't good at?"  The next thing I knew we were dating.


Apparently being able to play piano was one key to her puzzle. Acting and singing were probably in there too, since that's how she met me. And I was not trying to solve the puzzle - she was a 2-time runner-up for Miss California, I thought she was out of my league.

Comments

[yourbob.livejournal.com]

I'd replace the word woman with "people" and remove the word "not". We are machines. Just biological ones that have flexible programming.

[fierynotes.livejournal.com]

Well, if that line was used in the context I suspect (I don't do facebook, so I'll have to hope she crossposts to LJ), it's mostly talking about Nice Guys™ -- guys who never make a move, but do nice things in the hopes that the lady in question will recognize how nice they are, and then have sex with them. These same guys are often the ones complaining that only assholes get laid, and why does no one notice their niceness?

This is totally not you -- women find you interesting based on your own merits, and from my limited interaction with you at cons, you're genuinely nice, without the ™ sign. The guys who do nice things in hopes of earnilng barter credit? That's not nice. It's creepy.